Anxiety Self Help

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What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe. Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life. For example, you may feel worried and anxious about sitting an exam or having a medical test or job interview.

It is a natural human response and can show in the form of thoughts, feelings and physical sensations.

With over 8 million people in the UK currently suffering from diagnosed anxiety, you are not alone. We often feel anxious around times of stress or major change; some suffer from anxiety in general.

The tools and techniques listed below are to help you better understand how your anxiety is affecting you and some things you could try to better cope and deal with the anxiety better.

Everyone’s experience of anxiety is different, so it’s hard to know exactly what causes anxiety problems. There are probably lots of factors involved some of which MAY include past or childhood experiences | your current life situation | physical and mental health problems | drugs and medication

How Can I Help Myself?

Living with anxiety can be very difficult, but there are steps you can take that might help. This page has some suggestions for you to consider.

For tips on coping with panic attacks, see our section on what helps to manage panic attacks.

Can anxiety problems be inherited genetically?

Research shows that having a close relative with anxiety problems might increase your chances of experiencing anxiety problems yourself. This is sometimes called ‘anxiety sensitivity’.

At the moment there is not enough evidence to show whether this is because we share some genes that make us more vulnerable to developing anxiety, or because we learn particular ways of thinking and behaving from our parents and other family members as we grow up.

Talking to someone you trust about what’s making you anxious could be a relief. It may be that just having someone listen to you and show they care can help in itself. If you aren’t able to open up to someone close to you, the Samaritans and Anxiety UK both run helplines that you can call to talk to someone.

Click here to see our video on the affects of anxiety and different things that helped them cope.

“It was very difficult to open up to my family about how I’m feeling, the thoughts I’m getting… But their reactions surprised me in a very good, positive manner.

Anxiety can make it really hard to stop worrying. You might have worries you can’t control. Or you might feel like you need to keep worrying because it feels useful – or that bad things might happen if you stop.

It can be helpful to try different ways of addressing these worries. For example, you could:

  • Set aside a specific time to focus on your worries – so you can reassure yourself you haven’t forgotten to think about them. Some people find it helps to set a timer.
  • Write down your worries and keep them in a particular place – for example, you could write them in a notebook, or on pieces of paper you put in an envelope or jar.
  • Try to get enough sleep. Sleep can give you the energy to cope with difficult feelings and experiences. See our page on coping with sleep problems for more information.
  • Think about your diet. Eating regularly and keeping your blood sugar stable can make a difference to your mood and energy levels. See our page on food and mood for more information.
  • Try to do some physical activity. Exercise can be really helpful for your mental wellbeing. See our pages on physical activity for more information.

Breathing exercises can help you cope and feel more in control. You can find some suggestions on our page on relaxation. The NHS also has some tips on breathing exercises for stress.

Can mindfulness help with anxiety?

Mindfulness is a way of giving your full attention to the present moment. Some people find mindfulness helpful for coping with certain anxiety disorders, but other people say it makes them feel worse.

One of the reasons for this is that some people find noticing their negative thoughts too intense, and it can make them feel worse. If you try mindfulness and still feel unwell, ask your GP or therapist about other things you could try.

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) – the organisation that produces guidelines on best-practice in healthcare – says that mindfulness is not recommended for social anxiety. Read more about social anxiety (sometimes called social phobia) in our page on types of phobia.

See our pages on mindfulness for more information.

It might help to make a note of what happens when you get anxious or have a panic attack. This could help you spot patterns in what triggers these experiences for you, or notice early signs that they are beginning to happen.

You could also make a note of what’s going well. Living with anxiety can mean you think a lot about things that worry you or are hard to do. It’s important to be kind to yourself and notice the good things too.

Peer support brings together people who’ve had similar experiences to support each other. Many people find it helps them to share ideas about how to stay well, connect with others and feel less alone. You could:

See our pages on peer support for more information about what it involves and how to find a peer support group to suit you.

If you’re new to online peer support you might also find it helpful to read our information on how to stay safe online.

You may find that complementary and alternative therapies help you to manage your anxiety.

There are many types that you can try, to see what works for you. These include:

  • yoga
  • meditation
  • aromatherapy
  • massage
  • reflexology
  • herbal treatments
  • Bach flower remedies
  • hypnotherapy.

Some people find that one or more of these methods can help them to relax or sleep better.

Many chemists and health shops stock different remedies and should be able to offer advice.

This information was published in February 2021. We will revise it in 2024.

References and bibliography available on request.

© Mind. This information is published in full at mind.org.uk